Tango Diva : Travel Stories for Women, by Women

June 24th, 2006
Chant the beauty of the good

I am in the midst of going through the raw data of our last research project. I am amazed by how my women are still afraid of traveling alone. Why is that? What are you afraid of, really?

I am trying hard to understand this, because I have never been afraid to travel alone, so I can’t comprehend the fear. For example, I’m not afraid of heights and I just don’t get why people are afraid of being high up? What is the fear about?? Falling? Death? Getting hurt? What?? I’m afraid of bugs that bite and cockroaches. Why? Because of diseases and having some gross bug crawl up my leg or in my mouth while I’m sleeping. Now, to me that is a real fear. I’ve been bit, and I have had a bug crawl up my leg, and it’s really horrible. But heights? I don’t get it. Please explain.

So, then it got me thinking about focusing on the good versus the bad. If I focused on all the bad things that “could” possibly happen to me while I traveled, I’d never leave my house. But luckily, I don’t. I focus on all the wonderfully new and exciting adventures that I am going to have and all the fabulous people I am going to meet. And it always happens. I always – and I mean always – meet the best people in the world while I travel solo. And occasionally I get bit by a bug or monkey or a swarm of paper wasps, but nothing has killed me yet. Well, the monkey was a close call!

So, just like the attitude I take when I travel, I will take the same one when I blog. Like Ralph Waldo Emerson said: “Don’t waste yourself in rejection, nor bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good."

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